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When we think back a few years, who would have guessed we are where we are now? No one has a flawless plan. All those 5 year plans, 10 year plans, life plans. They are no good, because there are so many unexpected surprises waiting to throw us off course, to challenge us, to make our lives hell, and to make our lives worth living.
Almost a year ago I left Baltimore to move to Texas for the first time. I arrived in Texas on May 26 and met a fantastic group of people who would get me through the summer, who would help me fall in love with Austin, and would push me to opportunities that challenged me and my way of thinking. It was a test run in a lot of ways- to see if I could survive in a place other than Baltimore, a place where I knew no one and nothing, somewhere new. I passed that test and I surprised myself with my independence and my drive. The biggest surprise though… is that plans are for the birds.
I spent a lot of time trying to win over a guy in Austin. He was my challenge and to win him was something I needed to do. Need is in no way an understatement. I have always known I was competitive, but my competitiveness and my vulnerability in this situation made for something I’ve never really felt. And of course he was one of my closest friends in Austin, spending close to everyday with him, being somewhat dependent on him as part of my social life. In hindsight, I was foolish. The friendship was completely mutual and really something special; but anything more was solely resting on my shoulders. I would talk to him about what could be and where I might be and all of the unknowns in my next few years, and in my heart I know I was looking for some affirmation that Texas might call me back. He said to me… A lot can happen in a year and you don’t know what or who is going to come into your life back in Baltimore. Maybe you’ll stay there forever. Maybe you’ll find someone you want to be with.
Cynical little me wanted nothing to do with this idea. I knew I was our for adventure and Baltimore was no longer fulfilling my needs. It would be silly of me to even entertain the idea of staying in Maryland or falling for someone back home. My plans were set to go and no one would hold me back.
I took what he said too literally. I took it to mean he was doubting my ability to leave Baltimore, that that change would be too grand for me to handle, which he may have been. But what he said was right… A lot can happen in a year. And a lot has. I’m graduating with a Masters. I’m moving to Texas soon. I’m starting a new job. And I have a boyfriend who is so perfect for me that I sometimes can’t believe it.
Forgive me, tumblr, for not making this announcement here before now- I am moving to Houston, Texas at the end of June to begin a job as a Residence Life Coordinator at the University of Houston. And I have a boyfriend.
That being said- I am leaving everything I have ever known and everyone who I have ever known (save a handful around the country). And honestly- that’s all well and good. I am so fine with that. It will be hard, yes, and even over the summer there were times that I was homesick. There were times that I worried that things were happening back home without me, things I was missing out on. I worried about being left out, I worried about people forgetting about me. It would be a lie for me to say I am not and will not worry about all those same things again. But- I’m ok with it. I have had the time to prepare myself mentally for these things. I am just going to have to live with it.
What I didn’t plan for and what I haven’t had the time to prepare for is leaving someone I’m in love with. I didn’t plan for a relationship to happen this year; it complicates things. It wasn’t in my plan. And I fought him so hard. I fought myself so hard. I wasn’t ready for my plan to get messed up, but I’m so glad that I shut my logic up and went with my gut. I’ve never been in a relationship as healthy as this one.
I would have missed out on so much if I had stuck to my plan, if I had been so stubborn. Life’s surprises have given me some of the best experiences. Trying things out and seeing for myself has given me near everything I love. Many of my decisions I base on feeling and gut; how I feel when I’m in the environment, and ignoring others opinions that they try to give to me. Thinking about it, honestly- Mercy High School was a surprise, UMBC wasn’t planned, Phi Mu was never something I planned for, UT-Austin was a gut decision, my internship at MICA was a surprise, I had never even heard of the University of Houston before signing on to the TPE webpage. All of my most important life events came to me by chance, by just trying something out and following my gut and my heart, by letting life happen to me instead of strictly sticking to a plan.
Moving to Houston is going to be a phenomenal change. It will be hard and it will challenge me. The job will challenge me. Making a whole new social circle will challenge me. Maintaining a long distance relationship will surely challenge me. But in the end, letting myself be surprised and overcoming the challenges is really who I am and what I love to do.
I’m excited that I have so many people behind me and supporting me through this.
Anonymous asked: If you get a job outside if Maryland will you n the new boyfriend break up ???
I did get a job outside of Maryland and we are not breaking up.
Its been a while since I’ve taken the time to sit down and think about where I am right now. Or where I have been. I have been thinking about where I will be going a lot lately, but never have I sat down to think about that. I’ve been so on the go all the time.
So here I am. :) And a lot has happened.
I’m in my last semester of grad school. In two months I will have a master’s degree. I completed 2 of my 3 classes this semester on Sunday and Tuesday, so now I just have one left. One more class to finish before graduating with my Master’s degree. I will be the first person in my family to have a Master’s. Its exciting.
I love my current job. My student staff are phenomenal and I owe so much to them for the experience that I’ve gotten at Towson. Its going to be tough saying good bye to them in a few months. There are so many amazing campus leaders here and I’m going to try to keep up with the ones I have gotten close to. The ones who have really helped me learn who I am as a leader.
I’m job searching. All over the country. I applied to 38 schools. I interviewed with 30 total so far. I have some on-campus interviews coming up which is the last step before job offers are made. Its getting intense and I’m excited and scared and overwhelmed and underwhelmed all at the same time. It has been a whirlwind so far for sure. I am certain I am going to end up somewhere that I love though. I know it. And I’m excited to see a new city and explore a new place and have a new/real job and a new apartment.
I have a boyfriend. Allan. I met him in September 2010 and hated him. We had Spanish together and I absolutely hated him. Underneath it all I guess I actually liked him, because I sure like him now. We started 2 days talking before I moved to Texas for the summer. Talk about bad timing! We talked all summer and got too close, helped by the safety of the distance. I came back to Baltimore and it was a struggle for a few months, but then we started seeing each other more regularly. A couple of months ago we called it exclusive and he is officially my boyfriend and I am officially a girlfriend. Its been a while since I was comfortable enough to day that. And he’s so good to me and I am good to him. We have a good thing going and I’ve got a lot of hope for it.
All good things. I have all the good things right now.
I am hopeful. And that is good. :)
Anonymous asked: Is he real? Your boyfriend that is... Haha.
He’s so fake